"You cannot think that the buckling on of the knight's armor by his lady's hand was a mere caprice of romantic fashion. It is the type of an eternal truth- that the soul's armor is never well set to the heart unless a woman's hand has braced it; and it is only when she braces it looselh that the honor of manhood fails." - Ruskin

+++ We shared this wonderful book with you all last August and it is such a wonderful title so we thought we would bump this post up. It is a great title to read in May (the month of Mary) and also makes a great Mother's Day gift, a book for the heart of every mother. +++
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In a day and age where every lady dreams of her knight in shining armor and struggles to find him. When doors are not normally opened for ladies by gentleman and when women generally want to be equal with men this book is as fitting (or even more so) today as it was in 1877 when it was written.

Thomas Foley, Bishop of Chicago in 1877 said: This work is "fitted for our times. It will be of vast service to many mothers and daughters in the Church, by showing them how they may practically conform their lives to the bright pictures of womanly virtue you have so felicitously portrayed."

This wonderful book, The Mirror of True Womanhood, was written by Rev. Monsignor Bernard O'Reilly. It covers so many beautiful topics involving true womanhood with Mary as our shining example. From home-life, a woman's love, supernatural virtues, a living faith, hospitality, making our homes a paradise, biblical examples of virtuous women, stewardship, resourcefulness, spirit of charity, education of our children, childhood, building religious character, city life vs. farm life, generosity, formation of boys and girls in childhood, Christian idea of service, social duties and many, many more topics!

This book is chalk full of real life examples about woman and how they mold the men of the world and how they inspire virtue in the home. Today woman think that their power lies in working and providing an income, in making their way in the world. This book shows in so many ways how special the woman is that molds the world though the children she raises, the home that she keeps and the husband that she loves and honors.

One of the most impressive stories in this book (so far, as I haven't finished reading it yet) is about St. Margaret, Queen of Scotland. Because she was so full of virtue, love of God and charitableness she would never allow anyone to leave her table without first saying the meal prayer at the end of the meal. It was not uncommon for people to get up and leave after they were done. Instead of using her queenly authority she, in a more delicate way, provided those finished with their meal with plenty to drink until everyone had finished their meal. In this way she was able to insure that all gave their thanks to God in a most charitable manner.

There are several secular and Protestant books on the market, even a few Catholic ones, that try to show how a woman is head of the house and how she influences her family and even beyond with her womanly talents. One of the more famous biblical quotes for this sort of topic is also stated in this book: "Who shall find a valiant (brave-hearted) woman? ... The heart of her husband trusteth in her... She hath sought wool and flax, and hath wrought by the counsel of her hands... She hath tasted and seen that her traffic is good: her lamp shall not be put out in the night... She hath opened her hand to the needy, and stretched out her hands to the poor. She shall not fear for her house in the cold of snow." - Proverbs xxxi. This book far exceeds those other books in explanation and its so thoroughly Catholic that it would be hard for any other book to compare to this one.

Mirror of True Womanhood, is one of those books that holds its place in every Catholic home's library, as a wonderful wedding gift, a gift for any young lady, for any mother-to-be as well as one that should be read over and over again. There is true beauty in womanhood and it has its own special place. Not a place that is the same as man's but is different yet equal in importance. The same author has also written a book for men titled "True Men as We Need Them." I imagine it is equally fitting for men in our times. These two books can be found in ebook version online for free.
Download them here:
Mirror of True Womanhood                   True Men as We Need Them

 
 
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Tuesday we shared a bit with you on the reprint of the book The Mirror of True Womanhood put out by Refuge of Sinner's Publishing. We also invited you to enter into a drawing for a free book! We are excited to announce that the winner of the book is.....


Christine!

Christine when you see this would you please contact us with your email and mailing address so that we can get this lovely gem of a book in the mail to you? Congratulations!

Thank you to the rest of you who entered to win, it really is a gem of a book and highly recommend purchasing your own copy over at Refuge of Sinner's Publishing or downloading the free ebook to your kindle. Below are a few excerpts from the book to enjoy.

Mirror of True Womanhood
By: Rev. Monsignor Bernard O'Reilly

"But it is the wife or daughter of the man of toil, crushed beneath her load of care and fatigue, or cooped up by night between the narrow walls of an unsavory dwelling in a crowded neighborhood, that we would fain to teach how to rear in the little garden of her soul these flowers of paradise, which will make her a spectacle to the angels and to men."

This section seemed quite fitting for our day and times when so many mother's feel cooped up in the home, held to their duties and when the world promotes working mothers.

Rev. Monsignor O'Reilly lists 7 virtues, qualities to adorn every house with:

"A lively Faith, a piety full of sweetness and modesty, a generous hospitality; holiness of life, serenity and innocence in conversation." He goes into these topics in a great deal.

A lively Faith because God is always here with us and guides us through the trials of our day. Piety, the spirit of dutiful and generous love all in the name of God. Sweet and Modest; sweet in calmness and gentleness with which everything is undertaken and accomplished. Modest; in that no self seeking and no consciousness of evil can disturb or overcast the limpid purity of a soul. Hospitality for we receive Christ himself when receiving others.

In another section of the book Monsignor O'Reilly also cautions, "Keep out the fatal influences which might weaken or destroy the previous boon of Christian faith in your household; bar and bolt your door." Quite the warning for our times when those fatal influences seem to be hiding around every corner.

May you prayerfully find this book a wonderful help in your lives as it has been for myself. May the rest of your week be a most blessed one!
 
 
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A guest post from Whit! more or less...
By: Colette Whitmore

"A glad heart maketh a cheerful countenance; but by grief of mind the spirit is cast down." Proverbs 15:13

I have been reading a simply lovely book lately,  A Bedside Book of Saints by Aloysius Roche.  It is a book about Saints unlike any I have read previously.  It is not so much a history as a description of characteristics of the saints that run counter to popular beliefs, i.e. it would be difficult to live with a saint, all that piety must be dreary, etc.  I came across this passage here last night and wanted to share:

   "The Mirror of Perfection says of St. Francis of Assisi: 'His highest and chiefest study was to maintain both outwardly and inwardly a spiritual cheerfulness.'  Perhaps we have not understood this sufficiently--that good cheer is a knack, an art in fact, and the result of much planning and contriving.  

People say: 'You are either cheerful or you are not;  and that is the end of the matter'  But of course, the same sort of people also say: 'You either love or you do not and that is the end of the matter.'  Some effort must be made to preserve cheerfulness as to preserve friendship and love.  Love commonly dies of sheer and willful neglect;  we guard it with less care than we guard our trinkets and silver spoons.  

And although children are cheerful by nature and by accident, we adults are not.  Good cheer flows through the little one like blood through its veins;  but it is far otherwise with us who have said good-bye to illusions and whose blood and veins are not what they were.  Beauty may be able to look after herself but not cheerfulness."

This is not a concept I have thought that much about.  I have known for a long time that the disposition of Mommy directly impacts the disposition of everyone in the home.  Knowing this doesn't always translate to me being cheerful when I don't feel like it.  It is so much easier to blame the weather, the bad night's sleep, the recalcitrant children, genetic makeup--which ever-- for my seeming lack of cheer.

What a concept that cheerfulness is something you have to work to attain, not a personality trait you were born with or without.  I'm sure there are people who are more prone to be cheerful than others-- I don't think I am one of them! I am not prone to depression or melancholy though which is the direct opposite.  I guess I am one who sits in the middle of the cheery boat.  I love cheerful things: colors, books, movies etc and try to stay away from the dreary, ugly and depressing. *digression:  why are so many of the so called "best" books and movies so darn depressing??*  So I guess working on a cheerful disposition to go with my cheerful preferences is what is in order here.

The one point I don't necessarily agree with the author is the remark about beauty taking care of itself....  maybe before the age of makeup and curling irons....

Have a cheerful day!


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To Purchase The Beside Book of Saints please visit Refuge of Sinners Publishing

From the Preface:
“If there is to be a Bedside Book of Saints at all, then it ought to be made to look the part; its pattern may well be that of the old-fashioned quilt - a thing of threads and patches.”

Listen to St. Jerome, one of the Fathers and Doctors of the Church: “Let holy reading be always at hand. Sleep may fall upon thee as thou lookest thereon, and the sacred page meet the drooping face.”

So, these odds and ends have been sewn together without too much study and with very little plan, in the hope that they may be of service to an invalid here and there, and to those whose bad habit is to read themselves to sleep.

Impr 1934. 145 pages.